Tuesday, August 7, 2012

"A good wife always knows her place."

You may have been wondering how my somewhat ambitious resolutions have been going.  For this week at least (a.k.a. my last week at home before I go back to work), I've been doing quite well, and feeling pretty proud of myself.  I've even accomplished a few of the projects I had on the list for August, which is a bonus, considering that I get this sinking feeling knowing that once work starts back, I'll never be able to do any projects around the house ever again - at least until Reagan hits high school.  This probably isn't true, but I still keep having a sense of foreboding anyway.

Oh well, I can always hire a handyman.

At any rate, getting up around or before 6am has actually been a blessing; I can definitely see how adding that extra hour and a half to my morning will make me feel a lot more grounded for the rest of the day, and seeing as I had been used to getting up around 4 every morning to feed Reagan up until a couple of weeks ago, sleeping until 5:45 feels great, especially since Reagan doesn't really wake up until 6:30 nowadays.  There is that moment, however, over the course of the day that I do feel like going back to bed - upon which, I fix myself another cup of coffee and find an activity that will keep me going until the exhaustion passes.  Today, that moment struck early - at about 8 am - so I took a couple more sips of my favorite brew, and decided to take a quick shower while Reagan was playing on the bed.

Now, I really just think I had my mind on other things, it wasn't like those first few days of motherhood where my mind left me altogether (one morning, I came rushing into the living room in a panic and kept asking my mother where "the other one" was.  She responded by telling me that everything was ok, she was holding a sleeping Reagan, but I kept screaming, "but where's the other one!!!?!?"  Apparently I had dreamed that I had twins and that the second baby had rolled under the bed and I couldn't find it.  I even went back into the bedroom and searched under all the sheets and pillows before I finally woke up.  It was terrifying.).

No, what I was thinking hard about this morning as I hopped into the shower fully clothed was being a "Good Wife."

(Yes, you read that right.  Fully clothed.)

I had been dusting ARay's nightstand and found an article from a 1959 edition of Housekeeping Monthly that I had totally forgotten about.  Way back when we were engaged, I showed it to my betrothed after I received it as a joke from someone at one of my bridal showers; I still think it's hilarious, so I'm going to share it with you today:

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 "The good wife's guide"

1.  Have dinner ready.  Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready, on time for his return.  This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him and are concerned about his needs.  Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospect of a good meal (especially his favorite dish) is part of the warm welcome needed.

2. Prepare yourself.  Take 15 minutes to rest so you'll be refreshed when he arrives.  Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking.  He has just been with a lot of work-weary people.

3.  Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him.  His boring day may need a lift and it's one of your duties to provide it.

4.  Clear away the clutter.  Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives.

5.  Gather up schoolbooks, toys, paper, etc. and then run a dustcloth over the tables.

6.  Over the cooler months of the year, you should prepare a light fire for him to unwind by.  Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too.  After all, catering for his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction.

7.  Prepare the children.  Take a few minutes to wash the children's hands and faces (if they are small), comb their hair and, if necessary, change their clothes.  They are little treasures and he would like to see them playing the part.  Minimize all noise.  At the time of his arival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer or vacuum.  Try to encourage the children to be quiet.

8.  Be happy to see him.

9.  Greet him with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please him.

10.  Listen to him.  You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time.  Let him talk first - remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours.

11.  Make the evening his.  Never complain if he comes home late or goes out to dinner or other places of entertainment without you.  Instead, try to understand his world of strain and pressure and his very real need to be at home and relax.

12.  Your goal: try to make sure your home is a place of peace, order and tranquility where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit.

13.  Don't greet him with complaints and problems.

14.  Don't complain if he's home late or even stays out all night.  Count this as minor compared to what he might have been through that day.

15.  Make him comfortable.  Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or have him lie down in the bedroom.  Have a cool or warm drink ready for him.

16.  Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes.  Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice.

17.  Don't ask him quiestions about his actions or question his judgement or integrity.  Remember, he is master of the house and as such will always exercise his will with fairness and truthfulness.  You have no right to question him.

18.  A good wife always knows her place.

...I have only one thing to say about all this.  Where is my "good wife"?  I need one more than ARay does!

1 comment:

  1. I love your blog!
    xo from Berlin